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Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex?
The answer might surprise you
Getting back with your ex comes with a lot of uncertainty. Knowing it didn't work out the first time can make you feel as if you are crazy to consider signing up for another round. Yet, there can be times when it isn't such a crazy thing after all.
This will depend on why you broke up, how you broke up and what has happened in the interim. If the breakup was ugly, and one or both of you talked badly about each other after it, it might not be the best thing to go back to. If the breakup was amicable and you were able to remain civil toward one another after, there’s hope that there is enough mutual respect and maturity to build on.
None of these things should be considered if in the past there was any type of abuse, physical or emotional, those types of relationships are meant to stay in the past.
You have both grown, emphasis on both
How long has it been since you broke up? Are we talking weeks, months years? The longer it has been the better the chance that you have both grown. That isn't always a given some people never change, but many people do. They often will if enough time has passed since your break up.
