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They Will Show You Who They are Right From the Start — Warning Signs to Look for in New Love
It’s your heart, your time, and your life, it’s okay to make sure this new person is someone you truly want to get into a relationship with
I can still remember a guy I was starting to date telling me how his last girlfriend had ghosted him, he had no idea why. I felt bad for him and at the time being codependent, thought I could fix it. I vowed that I would never leave like that.
In the end, I had no choice but to leave, I didn't ghost him, but I found out firsthand why his ex had.
When we are looking for love we can have blinders on. Wanting to find happiness so badly, we may overlook things we shouldn't. A need for attention, acceptance, and feeling wanted, worthy, and desired can feed this tendency.
Pay attention at the start, it’s where the information is
In the first few meetings, a new person will display warning signs if you pay attention. Take a moment and think back to your early conversations with those partners that ended up being difficult.
Things to look for
