Take the Love Style Quiz
What is your love style?
Everyone loves a little differently, knowing your love style can help you get a better understanding of your relationships as well as your best match. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or dating, this quiz will help you to better understand your love style.
This quiz has 7 questions, for each question you will answer either a, b, c, d. Answer each one as truthfully as you can and base it on how you feel today, don’t overthink for the best results!
Following the quiz will be the four love styles and the positives and negatives of each.
Questions
1. What do you look for in a partner?
a. Someone I can help.
b. Someone I can have fun with.
c. Marriage material.
d. Someone who I feel an instant attraction to.
2. What is your idea of a fun date?
a. Somewhere quiet so we can talk late into the night.
b. Road trip!
c. Dinner and a movie.
d. Chocolates, roses, and wine.
3. What kind of location would you like to live in with your partner?
a. Urban location, something close to a park, yoga studio, and metaphysical shops.
b. Haven’t really thought about it, rental for sure.
c. Suburbs, good schools, lots of family-friendly places nearby.
d. Anywhere is fine with me as long as we’re together.
4. What kind of wedding do you dream of?
a. Something offbeat, like getting married underwater.
b. I don’t dream of weddings, eww.
c. A big wedding with all of our family and friends to help us enjoy our special day.
d. Elope, it's spontaneous and so romantic!
5. What are your goals for your relationship?
a. Sharing my life with someone in a meaningful, heart-to-heart manner.
b. Finding someone who wants to experience life with me, whatever that might bring.
c. Marriage, family, and security.
d. Finding my destined romantic partner.
6. If you did marry, choose an ideal location for your honeymoon.
a. Wherever my partner wants to go, I want them to feel happy.
b. International baby!
c. Niagara Falls.
d. A long cruise where we can be alone in our happy bubble.
7. Where do you see yourself in five years regarding love?
a. In a loving committed relationship.
b. Having a like-minded partner who I can spend time with as well as have my independence.
c. Married, with children, in a secure, long-term relationship.
d. Living my dream with my soulmate or twin, sharing our lives in every way possible
Count how many a,b,c, or ds you have. Whichever letter is the highest that is your love style.
a: Intuitive/Empathic Style
b: Adventurer/Independent
c: Traditional
d: Romantic
What if I have two love styles? If you end up with a tie, you may have two love styles. Read the section for both.
What if you have 3 or more? While it’s certainly possible you can have 3 or more love styles, it’s more likely one or two are going to stand out a bit more. I would suggest reading the sections below to learn more and see if one or two resonate more strongly than the others.
Love Styles
Intuitive/Empathic Love Style
This love style wants to help their partner reach their full potential, to really uplift them. It comes naturally, you can have an uncanny sense when your partner needs help or healing. This love style is kind, compassionate, and deeply loves. The experience of love goes right up to the soul.
Positives- You offer authentic love, straight from the heart. You believe in your partner and want to support them through anything. You envision a bright future together and the best part, you will build it together. With the right partner, this can be a beautiful union!
Negatives- With the wrong partner this can be a very one-sided union. Where you are doing most of the work. Your partner may not show up for you a lot of the time. They may be avoidant emotionally, not ready for the deep love you offer. Be careful who you choose to love and wait for their true nature to be exposed, you know a lot about intuition, but make sure you follow it!
Adventure/Independent Love Style
This love style is freedom-loving and wants to travel, explore, learn, and challenge the norms. Many in this category may push off having a long-term, settled-down type of relationship, in favor of dating or staying single. However, when this love style finds a fellow adventurer, it can ignite a lot of passion. If this is your love style you are focused on experiences.
Positives- You are passionate, live in the moment and while you can make plans, you have a healthy perspective on how things can change over time. This means you know how to be fluid and go with the flow. You are not rigid, limited, or locked into any one belief system too strongly. You have an open, loving, heart and when you find yourself in a relationship you love fully and completely, nothing is held back. With an equally flexible partner, you can have a ton of fun adventures!
Negatives- As with all the love styles it’s so important to pay attention to the love style of a potential partner. Problems arise when you find someone who isn’t as open and fluid as you are. Someone who needs things to be set and predictable. This can be very suffocating over time and may even feel as if you don’t have the independence you need to be happy and healthy.
Tradition Love Style
Marriage, kids, a white picket fence. Most of us are raised to go for the traditional love style, but it’s important to make sure this is what you want. If it is, be sure who you settle down with has similar values so you can get the security and commitment you are looking for.
Positives- This is the most common love style and many people are going to feel right at home in it. This style typically includes getting married or living together in a long-term, committed relationship. It often includes children and goals such as owning a home. There is a lot of stability, certainty, and security.
Negatives- Problems can arise when your partner does not have a traditional love style. These are the partners who may stray, whether it’s with another person, something like drugs/alcohol, or becoming workaholics. They focus on anything but the relationship. The traditional love style needs a life partner, be sure the person you are interested in is steady, reliable, and wants the same things in love that you do.
Romantic Love Style
If you can often be found gazing at the sky, daydreaming about your soulmate or twin flame, imagining the beautiful life you will have together, you likely have a romantic love style. As a romantic you live for love, and usually from a young age are curious about it. Hoping that you will find your special partner and live a happy life together.
Positives- Dreams can come true, and you can absolutely find a partner that is everything you dream of. Just make sure you understand that the relationship will have ups and downs and periods where things aren’t exactly glittering and ideal. As long as you can accept that, you are going to be fine in a relationship, you are designed for it. You love the intimacy, the bond, and the love that comes from a romantic union. Find an equally romantic partner and watch the love sparks fly!
Negatives- Take care to not be too idealistic. The problem with fantasizing about your soulmate/twin flame is, it’s not always what you imagined. Take the idealism down a notch or two, realizing that no one, or nothing, is perfect but if you have someone pretty close, that’s someone to hold onto.
